This is a difficult subject, but from what I’ve read and heard among other survivors, it’s important.
Rape is sexual contact. In my opinion, it isn’t sex. I count sex as part of a consensual relationship between adults. Classifying beyond that is not my call.
Victims of sexual abuse and/or rape are not responsible for what happened. We did *not* want those things to happen, nor did we create the circumstances that led to our abuse. The mind makes the emotional connection that this feels wrong. The physical body, however, does not always make that distinction.
Right. I can see that I’m not going to get through writing this post without starting to bumble on incoherently.
My point is, if you’re a survivor of sexual abuse and/or rape, you are *not* responsible, even if your physical body responded as it would under normal sexual circumstances. That’s actually not uncommon, and it does not make you anything less than what you are now– someone working towards the difficult transformation from victim to survivor.